How to Tell You’re Being Ghosted: A Comprehensive Guide

How to Tell You’re Being Ghosted: A Comprehensive Guide

I think it is safe to assume that out of all the romantic endeavors you have pursued, you have been “ghosted” at least once. The term “ghosted” refers to when someone who you have been talking to and/or hanging out with on a semi-regular basis (this can include dates or hookups) all of a sudden stops texting you. Although this person stopped texting you, they continue to follow you on social media, like your posts and watch you Snap Stories.
The easiest way to tell if you are being ghosted is to pay attention to the time between replies and the initiation of conversation. Usually this begins by looking at who sent the last text. If you sent the last text, you should not send another; just wait for a response or initiation of a new conversation. Waiting is arguably the most difficult part because with it comes overthinking, but you almost always get your closure.
If five days have gone by and you have received no text, then it’s time to initiate Plan B: send a text initiating a new conversation. Consider sending an open-ended text messages (such as asking them about their day). When and if your partner responds, analyze the response. In this process remember that silence is also a response.
Responses may vary. If you notice that the messages are very cut and dry in comparison to previous conversations, then it’s time to make a decision.
At this point, you have been ignored. More than likely, although the person has been viewing your Snap Stories and liking your Instagram posts, you have become an afterthought.
The time has come for an ultimatum for yourself. Either you stop texting the person altogether, maintain them on social media, and wait for the day they decide to text you back (if/when that may be), or cut off ties completely. At this point the situation is in a very inexplicable phase, and all you have left are mixed signals.
However, the silver lining is that no matter if you cut ties completely or maintain them on social media, your paths are bound to intersect at one point. Maybe you see them at a bar and strike up a conversation, or you steer clear of them at all costs.
Closure comes with time, and although communication in a technological age can blur many lines, it’s safe to say people are still assholes. Luckily, there’s always a delete button or a read receipt to add salt to a wound.

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